Do you think your
emotions can rub off on your children and how they respond to direction or
anything else in life? I ask this because I’ve started to notice my boys’
reactions to certain things I ask them to do. They often act lazy or whiny when
it comes to me giving them directions to do what’s important.
Am
I to blame?
My last post was about
being absent and how often I don’t really give the attention to my kids they
need. With that being said, can this reaction be the result of them not being
attended to? With hardly any male figure(s) around, due to their father’s
career, it can be hard for me to be the
serious parent they need when it comes to discipline. (I admit, I baby them and
give them their way when I know I need to be stern) I definitely believe
boys need that manly voice in their life in order to straighten up.
SO what is a mother to do?
I
know I am very emotional and I often react off of my emotions and don’t control
them as I should. This isn’t just towards my kids, but in life period. Can
uncontrolled emotions be genetically passed down or even picked up when you
don’t even notice? Being a mother, as I’ve said before, is a DAILY learning
process. There’s no way to perfect that title, when you’re learning something
new EVERYDAY. You can get all types of advice from other mothers, but it all
depends on the mindset of that parent.
My advice to myself and
other mothers is, try not to over-react when things don’t’ go the way you’ve
planned. Every day is going to be a
different challenge, which you will have to face and get through. When you notice your faults, try and come up
with solutions to resolve them. Pay close attention to what your children do and
their reactions and speak with them about it.
