My friend rented out her mini movie theater room in her apartment and invited some ladies from work.
It was genuine laughs, fun and tears. We watched a couple of movies and both movies had different but similar perspective on how we as mothers make a difference in our children's lives.
One of the movies was about a mother who had a bad past and had 2 kids that she gave up before she had another family. Her past end up catching up with her and it stirred up a lot of emotions. It made me think of the responsibility of being a parent and what I do affects my children's lives.
I say this because God gives us children for a reason, and while some women may thinks it's a burden, it really is a blessing. We are chosen to be parents, regardless of where we are in life. It's our choices in what we decide to do that can affect the outcome of it.
Children want to feel wanted and loved. After all, we don't get to choose who we want as parents anyway. There may be some families who may be worse off than others, but there is a greater purpose in each situation.
Towards the end of the movie all the kids end up reuniting and the mother end up apologizing for her not being in the other kids lives. The lesson I learned from watching this movie was my presence in my kids life is more important than material things.
PRESENCE IS BETTER THAN PRESENTS.
I always believed that, but I never really thought about it until now. No matter what I go through personally, my issues shouldn't affect how I treat my children. I'm sure we all struggled with letting our emotions get the best of us. For example, we may yell at our kids and tell them to go away and play. But is that really what we should be doing to them? Pushing them away in any form can affect them mentally and emotionally in the long run. So a lesson for all of us mothers is to try our best to show our children as much attention as we can, when we can.
I know us working mothers, really don't spend as much time as we think with our children. Our kids only get a couple hours a day during the week and if you work on the weekend, I'm sure that's hard of them too.
So make the most of being in the presence of your children and prioritize your TO-DO-List around your kids time versus your time if you're able.
