Acceptance and Love

As you get older and grow through things (notice I said grow and not go), you start to see life in a different light. I’m not just talking about circumstances, but also the people you hang around and others you just come in contact with on a daily basis.

 You often can feel vibes of others when you first introduce yourself; that vibe can either pull you in or make you run away.  What I’ve come to realize this past weekend is that I am starting to accept people where they are in life.  Without the stress of trying to change them for what I THINK they should be like. Nobody is perfect and everyone has their own journey to go through. 

I know growing up, I’ve always been that friend where I will tell someone what I think is better for them, (probably still the same way today lol) but i came out in a forceful way of trying to actually change them.  I had to learn that people can’t change people, only God can. We can provide the inspiration and the tools, but ultimately it’s up to that person and God to make those changes.

I’ve always wanted to see the good in people and watch them reach their full potential.  I can tell God is working on me to be in inspiration to others. As I am constantly praying and asking for his strength and guidance to do what I’m supposed to do. I want to be molded into that woman He wants me to be.

I can say I am not perfect but I am happy and I am going to choose to stay that way. Every day is a gift and I am thankful for the ones I still communicate with and choose to be around. Family is family, whether they are in the blood line are not; we all come from GOD anyway.

I also think accepting our children for who they become and not forcing them to be who we want them to be, could be beneficial. When they get older, they will remember the things we taught them to guide them on the right path. So when they do fall off or get side tracked, those words we instilled into them will come right on time to pull them back on track.

So anyways, accept yourself, your children and those who you surround yourself with and always do it with LOVE!!!

 

Cherish Being Alone

I don’t like to be alone, but lately I’ve grown to cherish the time I do have with just me and my kids.  I still talk to a couple of people who I have known before motherhood but hanging out with them is not much of an option nowadays.

As I'm getting older, i have lost interest in a lot of the things I used to do like drinking, smoking and partying. Now I'm at the point of my life where i want to surround myself with people who want to grow in life. I want friends who want to do different things like go to jazz clubs, out to eat, the movies, play dates w/ the kids (if they have them) or just other little outings besides the ‘’turn-up” scene.

I want to surround myself with those I can grow with on a mental, spiritual, and emotional level. So we can understand each other, uplift and genuinely support one another without the drama.

I think it’s good we all have these type of people in our lives because we were not meant to be alone on this earth. God didn’t make all these people for us to isolate ourselves and hate one another.
We were meant to build up, encourage and love one another.

I think as women we have to accept the new position in our life when we have kids.  We have to remember our kids are looking up to us. If we can accept ourselves with being alone in a certain season in our life, it becomes a valuable lesson. Not only to us as a mother, but to our children as well.

It’s okay to not have everyone like you or be around people all the time. Even the ones we used to be ‘besties’ with.  There are times where we have to grow and gain the strength to mature alone.

Like it say’s in the bible, we all have a purpose and are uniquely made; one person is not like the other.  That time alone is where we can learn about our self and limit what we want into our lives when we do start to invite others into it. 

Mentally it took me awhile to get to this point but daily I'm grateful I am being molded into  the woman God wants me to be.

Lesson Learned!!!